Brene Brown, the world-famous shame and vulnerability guru, shared in Oprah Winfrey’s show a simple method for healing shame, which applies to all negative emotions in general:
“To grow exponentially, shame absolutely needs three things: secrecy, silence, and judgment. Shame cannot survive two things: being spoken and being met with empathy.”
Destructive emotions feed on secrecy, silence, and judgment. Reversing this pattern involves:
After struggling with anxiety for about 30 years, I finally found something that works. …
How to break free from addiction for good?
Whether it’s alcohol or social media, if you have battled with addiction for any number of years, you know that it’s not enough to just stop. Stopping is relatively easy. The hard part is not to start again.
Bill Wilson, a co-founder of AA, saw thousands of people quit drinking after “working the 12-step program.” But he noticed over time that many of them eventually replaced their old addiction with a new one.
“How often have some of us begun to drink in this nonchalant way, and after the third or fourth…
A lot of stress is self-inflicted. That is, we can avoid it if we choose to. But we choose not to. The reason is that our bodies “need” it. Often people don’t want to reduce stress because they use it as compensation for their nutritional deficiencies.
According to Dr. James L. Wilson, a leading specialist in nutritional balancing science, people who are constantly tired often use stress as a stimulant. Over time, they become addicted to stress and instinctively choose things, people, and situations where they can relive the level of stress they are used to.
It sounds strange, but…
How to be enough with who I am? Here’s the secret of an egret.
I was walking along the creek, feeling empty. I didn’t even know why. There was this unsettling feeling that something was amiss.
I know this feeling so well. It haunts me. It always tells me the same thing over and over: the moment you are in is not good enough. You need to skip it and go to some blessed future.
Engrossed in my thoughts, I saw an egret in the shallow waters, standing on one leg. …
I started translating a new book for one of my old clients today (Russian into English). So I thought I would jot down some thoughts and insights on the process of translating a book from a co-creator’s standpoint.
How do you translate a book? I start with the mindset. Having translated over 100 books in 28 years, I am convinced that producing a quality translation (or any work of art) is not a mechanical process but an act of co-creation.
How to win an argument by losing it? Here’s my take on it.
My teenage daughter has different political views. I didn’t quite notice how and where she got them.
But the more we tried to “talk her out of it,” “show her how things really are,” “open her eyes,” the more she dug in the heels.
Eventually, the polarization in our home became so pronounced, that it dawned on me: when I am trying to get her to change her mind, I become emotionally intoxicated.
I may not show my anger or frustration externally, but it’s still there —…
I was in bed, dozing off. She wanted to tell me all the COVID news she had heard that day. Her eyes were full of news. She needed to vent.
I wasn’t sure I wanted to hear all that — I knew I would lose the precious half an hour between 10 and 10:30 when I easily fall asleep.
But, for some reason, I started listening, knowing full well I should have excused myself. Three minutes into it, a mighty tide of adrenaline dragged me full speed down the river of delectable negativity.
When I am bored, I easily fall…
When someone asks me how to become a literary translator, I have to stop and think. There are so many things to tell. Many individual streams feed this wonderful ocean of creativity.
Yet, there is one stream that, in my opinion, flows underneath it all — and crowns it all. I would put it like this: “Literary translation is a mindfulness practice.”
In his book The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle tells a story of how his cats taught him great wisdom. Imagine a cat sitting in front of a high fence, wanting to jump on it.
It looks up…
“The soul does not grow by addition but by subtraction.”
I was looking at the lampshade that I was designing as part of my business. I liked the way it turned out. And yet, something made me doubt whether it was ready to go to the client. I couldn’t tell exactly what it was.
Was it the shape? The size?
Straining my mind for an answer, I suddenly felt some unease growing in me. I knew very well what it meant. It usually means that I am frustrated with how things are going and want quick results.
As a translator since 1993 and a certified machine translation post-editor, I have worked with several machine translation engines over the past few years, and I see that MT has a bright and a dark side — depending on how you approach it.
So what is the future of machine translation? Here are some of my observations.
When I get a request to post-edit an AI-generated translation, I am usually offered a lower rate (20–50% of what I normally charge), because the assumption is that it will take me half the time to complete it.
It doesn’t. If I am…